Episode 135 – How Trauma May Be Impacting Your Parenting (and Your Life) with Jinelle Watson – Part 2

In part 2 of a 2 part episode series, Dr. Toni continues a conversation on the impact of trauma on parenting with social worker Jinelle Watson. They discuss triggers for experiencing trauma responses, automatic reactions that can impact parenting, and how guilt, shame and judgment can follow. Listen in to learn what therapy can look like and how you can take the first steps towards shifting your parenting and trauma responses.  

Jinelle Watson is a registered social worker who holds a Masters in Social Work with a clinical designation in Calgary, Alberta. She has been working in the field of mental health for over 8 years. During her pregnancy, she developed a passion for understanding the impacts of pregnancy and postpartum on gestational and non gestational parents and their families. With her daughter being born in 2020 she has developed a special level of empathy for life with a new baby during a global pandemic. Prior to the birth of her daughter in 2020, Jinelle specialized in sexual trauma therapy and she has built on this experience by completing her perinatal mental health certification. 

Jinelle’s approach to therapy comes from an anti-oppressive, and person-centered lens. She is experienced in supporting individuals and families through areas including but not limited to depression, anxiety, big T and little t trauma, PTSD, addictions, grief and loss, sexuality, gender identity, self-image and self-worth. Jinelle primarily uses techniques from Mindfulness Based Therapy, Sensor Motor based Psychotherapy, Art based therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, and Feminist Therapy.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • Potential triggers for a trauma response
    • Including specific pitch, tone, level of sound, possibly created by one or more of your kids
    • Interactions with your own parents, especially if they are part of your support network as a parent
    • Social media and mainstream media
  • How your instincts and automatic default reactions can create different feelings, including shame, guilt and judgment
  • How you can use rupture and repair to shift how you parent 
  • The importance of giving yourself permission to make mistakes in parenting
  • How to find the right mental health professional for you 
  • The importance of safety and stabilization, in addition to processing and healing, in trauma work
  • The importance of not forcing therapy on yourself or your kids if they are not ready
  • How you get to decide your growth or gain from working on your trauma responses
  • The importance of being curious about your behaviour, thoughts, body sensations without judgment or analysis
  • How curiosity towards yourself can be the first step to increasing your window of tolerance
  • The importance of boundaries and saying no

You can connect with Jinelle at https://www.jinellecounselling.com/ for a free consultation or Moss Postpartum House on Instagram @moss_postpartum_house

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Toni is a big fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race and their quote at the end of each episode: “If you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”

Jinelle finds building community to experience love and support from others essential. 

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety to support their natural instincts around labour and birth is happening this fall. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

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Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 134: How Trauma May Be Impacting Your Parenting (and Your Life) with Jinelle Watson – Part 1

In part 1 of a 2 part episode series, Dr. Toni discusses the impact of trauma on parenting with social worker Jinelle Watson. They review how both big T and little t trauma can create different stress responses, and how the pandemic, hormone fluctuations and different aspects of parenting (hello, sleep deprivation!) can lower your window of tolerance. Whether you know you are experiencing the impact of trauma or are not sure, this episode is a must listen!

Jinelle Watson is a registered social worker who holds a Masters in Social Work with a clinical designation. She has been working in the field of mental health for over 8 years. During her pregnancy, she developed a passion for understanding the impacts of pregnancy and postpartum on gestational and non gestational parents and their families. With her daughter being born in 2020 she has developed a special level of empathy for life with a new baby during a global pandemic. Prior to the birth of her daughter in 2020, Jinelle specialized in sexual trauma therapy and she has built on this experience by completing her perinatal mental health certification. 

Jinelle’s approach to therapy comes from an anti-oppressive, and person-centered lens. She is experienced in supporting individuals and families through areas including but not limited to depression, anxiety, big T and little t trauma, PTSD, addictions, grief and loss, sexuality, gender identity, self-image and self-worth. Jinelle primarily uses techniques from Mindfulness Based Therapy, Sensor Motor based Psychotherapy, Art based therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, and Feminist Therapy.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • What is little t and big T trauma
  • How little t trauma can impact you to a greater extent than big T trauma
  • The pros and cons of getting a diagnosis of PTSD
  • What it can look like to get counselling to address your trauma
  • How your personality can impact you might experience trauma 
  • What is the window of tolerance and how parenting, hormone fluctuations, sleep deprivation and the pandemic lowers your window
  • The different trauma responses you could experience, how you don’t anyways get to choose what you experience and how those responses are helpful
  • Why you can’t prevent trauma experiences and how helicopter parenting negatively impacts your kids
  • How to you can reduce how your kids experience trauma with communication
    • For more info on conversations with your kids about sex, see Episode 98

You can connect with Jinelle at https://www.jinellecounselling.com/ for a free consultation or Moss Postpartum on Instagram @moss_postpartum_house

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Jinelle likes the Instagram account @kids.eat.in.color to support her kid’s nutrition.

Dr. Toni is a big fan of the grief-focused podcasts Healing with David Kessler and Here After with Megan Devine.

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety to support their natural instincts around labour and birth is happening this fall. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 130: Lose Your Cool Less: Parenting with Educator Tara Gratto

In today’s episode, Dr. Lisa discusses everyday tools for feelings and kindness with educator Tara Gratto to support parents. As parents, we have a whole range of feelings and our patience is tested over and over. Social and emotional intelligence is a skill like learning a language – it needs to be practiced! Listen in to learn more.  

Tara Gratto M.S.Ed, MA, OCT is the founder of Raising Resilient Children. A long time educator and former preschool owner, she supports parents with tools and skills for feelings, kindness and everyday mental well-being. Her signature framework, the Language of Kindness makes parenting easier while fostering connection and building essential life skills with children. Tara focuses on supporting busy parents with tools for today, tomorrow and life. 

In this episode, we cover:

  • How to lose your cool less
  • What you can do in the moment when you are losing your cool
    • Awareness of triggers (where and when?)
    • Breathe and counting backwards from 10 or 5 (model tools for emotional regulation to your kids)
      • Five Finger breathing, Butterfly breathing or Dragon breathing
    • Name it to Tame it
  • The principles of the Language of Kindness
  • kindness to self (your inner voice and self-confidence)
  • kindness to others (how we treat each others in calm and conflict)
  • kindness to the planet (to encourage thinking about food and consumption)
  • Setting yourself up for an action plan to deal with big feelings

Connect with Tara and access her free workshops for parents HERE.

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Lisa is a big fan of having a public library card to get books and DVDs 

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety around labour and birth is happening this summer. Join her by registering HERE.

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 128: Using Astrology to Align With Your Soul’s Calling with Spiritual Mentor Renata Taravski

In this episode, Dr. Lisa speaks with Dr. Renata about how you can get into alignment with your life. Whether you are a Virgo or an Aquarius, we break down how your limiting beliefs, where and when you were born and other factors can impact how you can live out your soul’s purpose. 

Renata’s a straight-talking astrologer, spiritual mentor, reiki master and naturopathic doctor who cuts through the “spiritual fluff,” to deliver the sassy cosmic wisdom you didn’t even know you were searching for. But what makes Renata a true master of her craft, is her commitment to helping empaths, spiritual entrepreneurs, healers and seekers confidently service the world the way they were born to do. So if you love a no-BS approach, with a lil’ woo-woo from someone who’s already walked the path, to tell you exactly what you need to do to make that happen, she’s your girl!

In this episode, we cover:

  • The ways your body can tell you that you are not in alignment
  • How you can get into alignment with your soul’s calling
  • What astrological patterns and factors influence your strengths and how you can live out your purpose

If you liked this episode???

You can connect with Renata at https://www.renatataravski.com/ and on Instagram @alignwithrenata

Today’s Mama Must Have:

Dr. Lisa is a big fan of some fun family activities, like the board game Sorry, a mini basketball net and soccer net for the backyard.

Renata loves Smart Sweets snacks and playing with bubbles in the summertime.

What’s Else is Happening:

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety around labour and birth is happening this summer. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Get on the waitlist for Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective Fall 2022 enrollment: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Thanks for joining us today!

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook and Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 126: Why Less is More When it Comes to Exercise (and How to Have Fun Doing it!) with Julia Hickman

In this episode, Dr. Lisa discusses with fitness and lifestyle coach Julia Hickman how crucial it is for women to carve out time for self-care and exercise, but probably not as long as you think. Instead of an all or nothing approach or pushing yourself harder, the key is to do it smarter. Learn how to stick to a movement routine when life gets busy or while on vacation, so you don’t suffer from exhaustion and burnout. 

Julia Hickman is an entrepreneur, wife and mother of 2 living in NJ. She left her corporate career in data analytics to become a stay at home parent to her first child and soon realized this was the ideal time to bring to reality her desire to be an entrepreneur. She started blogging and then became an online fitness and lifestyle coach helping entrepreneurial and professional women make time for fitness and self-care. After a short break undergoing stressful IVF treatments to have her second child, she decided to create a new business helping entrepreneurs focus on their brilliance by becoming their strategic partner in helping them elegantly launch and manage profitable podcasts that lead to high-ticket programs. She is the host of the Fit Femmes Movement podcast. 

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why you don’t have to workout 1 hour, 5 days per week
  • Why cardio is not the most efficient solution if you want to reduce body fat
  • Julia’s favourite full-body and core exercises
  • How to stick to an exercise routine, even when life gets busy
  • How to incorporate enjoyable movement while on vacation 
  • The benefits of starting your own podcast if you are an entrepreneur or have something to sell
  • How exercise is an act of self-love

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Lisa is a big fan of Midday squares (Peanut Butta flavour) as a lower sugar, higher protein snack.

Julia recommends using Mini Bands as an alternative to using weights to mix up your exercise routine.

You can connect with Julia on Instagram.

Check out Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing info session for expecting parents looking to trust their instincts and their body during labour and birth. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective and Wild Women Adventures: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Thanks for joining us today!

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided in this presentation is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.