Episode 193: Lose Your Cool Less: Parenting with Educator Tara Gratto

In today’s re-released episode from last year, Dr. Lisa discusses everyday tools for feelings and kindness with educator Tara Gratto to support parents. As parents, we have a whole range of feelings and our patience is tested over and over. Social and emotional intelligence is a skill like learning a language – it needs to be practiced! Listen in to learn more.  

Tara Gratto M.S.Ed, MA, OCT is the founder of Raising Resilient Children. A long time educator and former preschool owner, she supports parents with tools and skills for feelings, kindness and everyday mental well-being. Her signature framework, the Language of Kindness makes parenting easier while fostering connection and building essential life skills with children. Tara focuses on supporting busy parents with tools for today, tomorrow and life. 

In this episode, we cover:

  • How to lose your cool less
  • What you can do in the moment when you are losing your cool
    • Awareness of triggers (where and when?)
    • Breathe and counting backwards from 10 or 5 (model tools for emotional regulation to your kids)
      • Five Finger breathing, Butterfly breathing or Dragon breathing
    • Name it to Tame it
  • The principles of the Language of Kindness
  • kindness to self (your inner voice and self-confidence)
  • kindness to others (how we treat each others in calm and conflict)
  • kindness to the planet (to encourage thinking about food and consumption)
  • Setting yourself up for an action plan to deal with big feelings

Connect with Tara and her free workshops for parents at https://www.taragratto.ca/Transitions%20Parenting%20Workshop

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Lisa is a big fan of having a public library card to get books and DVDs 

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety around labour and birth is happening this summer. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 185: Postpartum Depression, Creativity and Uncovering Your Needs in Motherhood: A Conversation with Musician Kenna Burima Part 1

In this part 1 of 2 episodes, Dr. Toni talks with musician, songwriter, teacher and writer Kenna Burima about her experience with postpartum depression as an older mom and how the creative process helped her through it. This open and frank conversation includes discussions about depression, sleep deprivation, marriage breakdown, alcohol and drug use, solo parenting, “the beast of perfectionism” and creating her latest musical project “While She Sleeps”. 

Through her love of music and performing, Kenna Burima has built a career as a celebrated musician, songwriter, teacher and writer in Calgary, Alberta. As a community-minded classically trained pianist, Kenna has made her name in the Calgary music scene as a jazz-influenced solo artist, in the indie-folk band Woodpigeon and in the garage rock bands Brenda Vaqueros, The Pygmies and Beaver Squadron. She has helped create the Carol of the Belles Christmas concert and programmed Calgary’s Downtown Piano series. She was also recognized as one of Avenue Magazine’s Top 40 Under 40 in 2015. Her third album, While She Sleeps, began as a collection of journal entries written while working through postpartum depression after the birth of her daughter. She collaborated with visual artist Bri Strong to create the While She Sleeps Illuminated Songbook and presented While She Sleeps at renowned Calgary theatre company One Yellow Rabbit’s High Performance Rodeo. 

Kenna believes that no matter who you are; a seasoned veteran stuck on the bridge, a keen beginner needing help with chord choices, or someone who has never touched an instrument, you can express that which is inside of you through song. Private sessions with Kenna focus on creativity, personal expression and confidence building. Kenna’s 20+ years of writing, performing, and teaching songs of all kinds and genres has honed a gentle approach that will have you leaving each session with a song. But be forewarned, once the door is opened, you may not be able to shut it.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • How counseling helped Kenna uncover her unmet needs
  • The 3 things that were key for Kenna’s recovery
  • The creative process and focus on what you know to be true instead of what should be

You can connect with Kenna on Instagram, Tik Tok, Facebook and through her website kennaburima.com

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Toni is a big fan of aloe gel to apply to the skin apres sun, especially if that skin is a little red!

What’s Else is Happening?

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety to support their natural instincts around labour and birth is happening this fall. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join Dr. Lisa’s Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Thanks for listening!

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Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 139: How to Use Human Design to Consciously Parent with France Tailleur

In this episode, Dr. Lisa chats with parenting coach, France Tailleur, about how to parent your child “their way”: consciously and based on who your child truly is and who you truly are. There are huge differences in patterns of eating, morning routines and extracurricular activities to navigate as a parent. Listen to learn how Human Design can help guide you to parent in a way that allows your child to thrive. 

France Tailleur is The Human Design Parenting Coach. Her mission is “heal the parent & the children will thrive.” She guides her clients to challenge anything that takes away their freedom & makes them less than they could be. She has an innate gift at finding unconventional & practical solutions to parenting challenges that arise. She focuses on Inner child healing, Conscious Parenting tools, Human Design & more. What happens when you learn & embody these modalities is you become confident & connected as a parent, you create an environment for your child & yourself to Thrive in & you tap into unconditional love & acceptance & of course deeper connection with yourself, your child & your partner.

France is a #1 Amazon Best selling author with her Journal Sparkle Time. She is also the host of the Intentional Parenting Podcast.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • What it means to consciously parent
    • Reparent yourself
    • Parenting your child intentionally
  • What is Human Design
    • Remembering who you are
  • Why you see parenting differently than your spouse or co-parent
  • Why siblings can be completely different and need different parenting
  • How to find out your Human Design type
    • Mybodygraph.com
  • How Human Design can help you recognize your strengths and your challenges, as well as your child’s strengths and challenges
  • The important role Human Design can play for you to create and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships and parenting

Connect with France on Instagram and Facebook.

Sign up for France’s Growing By Design program – which is her “build your own” human design reading. Use the code: WEEKS30 to get 30% off!

Get France’s sparkle time journal.

Today’s Mama Must-Have: 

Dr. Lisa loves her Instant Pot to make her own apple sauce. 

France is a big fan of having a backpack full of snacks, water and activities for her daughter. 

What’s Else is Happening?

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety to support their natural instincts around labour and birth is happening this fall. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join my “5-Day COLD SHOWER CHALLENGE”. Includes a 60-min virtual workshop with a Cold Water Therapy Expert!

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Email us or connect with us on Facebook and Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 135 – How Trauma May Be Impacting Your Parenting (and Your Life) with Jinelle Watson – Part 2

In part 2 of a 2 part episode series, Dr. Toni continues a conversation on the impact of trauma on parenting with social worker Jinelle Watson. They discuss triggers for experiencing trauma responses, automatic reactions that can impact parenting, and how guilt, shame and judgment can follow. Listen in to learn what therapy can look like and how you can take the first steps towards shifting your parenting and trauma responses.  

Jinelle Watson is a registered social worker who holds a Masters in Social Work with a clinical designation in Calgary, Alberta. She has been working in the field of mental health for over 8 years. During her pregnancy, she developed a passion for understanding the impacts of pregnancy and postpartum on gestational and non gestational parents and their families. With her daughter being born in 2020 she has developed a special level of empathy for life with a new baby during a global pandemic. Prior to the birth of her daughter in 2020, Jinelle specialized in sexual trauma therapy and she has built on this experience by completing her perinatal mental health certification. 

Jinelle’s approach to therapy comes from an anti-oppressive, and person-centered lens. She is experienced in supporting individuals and families through areas including but not limited to depression, anxiety, big T and little t trauma, PTSD, addictions, grief and loss, sexuality, gender identity, self-image and self-worth. Jinelle primarily uses techniques from Mindfulness Based Therapy, Sensor Motor based Psychotherapy, Art based therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, and Feminist Therapy.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • Potential triggers for a trauma response
    • Including specific pitch, tone, level of sound, possibly created by one or more of your kids
    • Interactions with your own parents, especially if they are part of your support network as a parent
    • Social media and mainstream media
  • How your instincts and automatic default reactions can create different feelings, including shame, guilt and judgment
  • How you can use rupture and repair to shift how you parent 
  • The importance of giving yourself permission to make mistakes in parenting
  • How to find the right mental health professional for you 
  • The importance of safety and stabilization, in addition to processing and healing, in trauma work
  • The importance of not forcing therapy on yourself or your kids if they are not ready
  • How you get to decide your growth or gain from working on your trauma responses
  • The importance of being curious about your behaviour, thoughts, body sensations without judgment or analysis
  • How curiosity towards yourself can be the first step to increasing your window of tolerance
  • The importance of boundaries and saying no

You can connect with Jinelle at https://www.jinellecounselling.com/ for a free consultation or Moss Postpartum House on Instagram @moss_postpartum_house

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Toni is a big fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race and their quote at the end of each episode: “If you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”

Jinelle finds building community to experience love and support from others essential. 

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety to support their natural instincts around labour and birth is happening this fall. Join her at https://www.hypnobirthingcalgary.com/register

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.

Episode 130: Lose Your Cool Less: Parenting with Educator Tara Gratto

In today’s episode, Dr. Lisa discusses everyday tools for feelings and kindness with educator Tara Gratto to support parents. As parents, we have a whole range of feelings and our patience is tested over and over. Social and emotional intelligence is a skill like learning a language – it needs to be practiced! Listen in to learn more.  

Tara Gratto M.S.Ed, MA, OCT is the founder of Raising Resilient Children. A long time educator and former preschool owner, she supports parents with tools and skills for feelings, kindness and everyday mental well-being. Her signature framework, the Language of Kindness makes parenting easier while fostering connection and building essential life skills with children. Tara focuses on supporting busy parents with tools for today, tomorrow and life. 

In this episode, we cover:

  • How to lose your cool less
  • What you can do in the moment when you are losing your cool
    • Awareness of triggers (where and when?)
    • Breathe and counting backwards from 10 or 5 (model tools for emotional regulation to your kids)
      • Five Finger breathing, Butterfly breathing or Dragon breathing
    • Name it to Tame it
  • The principles of the Language of Kindness
  • kindness to self (your inner voice and self-confidence)
  • kindness to others (how we treat each others in calm and conflict)
  • kindness to the planet (to encourage thinking about food and consumption)
  • Setting yourself up for an action plan to deal with big feelings

Connect with Tara and access her free workshops for parents HERE.

Today’s Mama Must-Have:

Dr. Lisa is a big fan of having a public library card to get books and DVDs 

Dr. Toni’s next HypnoBirthing session for expecting parents looking to decrease fear and anxiety around labour and birth is happening this summer. Join her by registering HERE.

Join Dr. Lisa’s new Meetup group Wild Woman Adventures Toronto if you want to get out in nature, connect with other women and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Activities include: sunrise/sunset SUP, tree-top trekking, a new moon workshop and more!

Dr. Lisa’s Wild Collective in Fall 2022: get on the waitlist: wildcollectivetoronto.com

Email us or connect with us on  Facebook  and  Instagram

We’d love you to subscribe, leave us a review and a 5-star rating if you enjoyed this episode.

You can also support us by visiting our Patreon page.

Please tell your perimenopausal mama friends about us, too!

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

Disclaimer: The information provided is not meant to replace treatment with a licensed health care practitioner. It is for informational purposes only. Consult with a Naturopathic Doctor or other licensed health care professional to determine which treatments are safe for you.